Your Injury. Their Baggage.
As a mother, you want to give your children the emotional nurturance and security you longed for as a child.
Yet your unhealed maternal injuries may be unknowingly passing down the very patterns you vowed to protect your kiddos from.
These can manifest in them as:
Internalizing that their needs are a burden or not as important
Having trouble with intimacy, closeness and reciprocity
Struggling with guilt, people-pleasing and/or prioritizing their own needs
Believing healthy vulnerability and authentic connection is not safe or possible
Lacking a strong sense of identity, values and what they want in life
Becoming overly swayed by others' opinions and desires, lacking an inner compass
You’ve worked hard to prevent this by practicing conscious or gentle parenting, cultivating nurturing environments, and giving them every advantage you didn’t have.
Those things matter, but ultimately they don't override the deeper imprint your own unhealed wounds can have on shaping your child's emotional blueprint.
Sound Familiar?
Maternal injuries are a form of intergenerational trauma that often seem invisible but touch every part of your life.
They keep you bound to ancestral patterns of suffering, preventing you from being your best self and the mother you want to be for your children to thrive.
In action, these wounds manifest as:
Excessive sacrificing of your needs for others, including your children, or abandoning yourself for the "greater good"
Difficulties creating emotionally available, reciprocal bonds with your partner or cultivating supportive friendships
An inconsistent sense of self that causes struggles with boundaries and decision-making
Seeking validation from external sources such as your accomplishments or that of your children, food, and other relationships
You make sense.
Injuries within you formed when your mother wasn’t able to provide the nurturance, guidance, and protection all children need, regardless if she couldn’t, didn’t want to or didn’t know how.
As a child, your little mind unconsciously internalized her behavior into stories about who you are, what you’re worth, and what you can and cannot do.
Most of these stories are out of your awareness, but have created injuries to your sense of self that drive how you parent, lead your business or career, the decisions you make, and the relationships and friendships you choose.
Break the Cycle.
While the generational impact of unhealed wounds runs deep, you have the power to transform this inheritance. Through inner work and mentorship, you'll be initiated into your most empowered, emotionally sovereign self.
Together, we’ll mend the injuries your upbringing caused your sense of self, completely changing your nervous system, the narratives that are running in the background, and consequently, the way you move in your life.
You'll experience quantum leaps in self-confidence, clarity, and courage, and naturally become the compassionate compass your children can orient by, modeling emotional security, nurturance and guidance, buoyed by your own reparenting process.
The legacy you mend within is the greatest inheritance you'll leave - one of emotional wholeness, humanity and love beyond measure.
Meet Your Guide
Like you, I had injuries caused by the mothering I received.
Fifteen years ago, I went to couples therapy with my then-partner after months of non-stop arguments. Three sessions in, we had a breakthrough: I was contributing to our drama by looking for maternal nurturance and protection in my partner.
That was the beginning of my maternal injuries healing journey, and becoming the mother to myself that I’d been looking for in partners, friends, and achievements. Today I’m my own source of safety, love and validation, which has allowed me to attract the most nourishing relationships and expansive opportunities.
My elevated and healed Ancestors have also played a major role in my healing, helping me understand the extent of the generational trauma in my lineage and guiding me in dissolving it into wisdom.
To this deeply sacred work, I bring my extensive training as a family therapist, yoga teacher and breath work practitioner, along with my gifts in divination and mediumship to help you anchor in bodily and ancestral wisdom.
My purpose in this lifetime is to be a lineage shifter and conduit of safety and healing for newer generations. It is an absolute honor to support that vision by helping mothers heal their maternal injuries, break generational patterns of suffering, and guide their children to lead a world vastly different than the one we grew up in.
This work is intense, but the results are absolutely worth it.
Guiding Values
Below you’ll find the compass that guides me while guiding you.
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The most important factor of our relationship, and your transformation, is co-creating trust in our relationship. That will require a willingness to be vulnerable, integrity, and tolerance of discomfort - for me and you.
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I walk the talk, and consistency between my words and actions is supremely important to me. I will never walk with you down a path I haven’t walked myself before. Integrity with my values and personal mission also means that I only work with folx who I feel confident I can support.
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My kindness is honest, coming from a place of compassion and belief in everyone’s inherent dignity, regardless of their background. My kindness is not niceness, which can stem from keeping the peace. There might be moments of discomfort in your journey, but it will be in service of your transformation.
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I believe in everyone’s inherent dignity, even when they cause harm. As such, I see your mother’s personhood independently from how she mothered you. They’re rarely the same. This stance doesn’t excuse her behavior, give her pass, or require you to have a relationship with her if you don’t want to. Rather, it allows you to build capacity for compassion in your heart for your healing.
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We’re souls having a human experience and as such, I believe that everything happens in the spiritual realm before it manifests in the material one. I use my extensive clinical training as a tool to make sense of how spiritual phenomena shows up in our everyday experiences. I don’t pedestal science or any of the training I’ve received.
For us, Maternal Injuries are different.
In communities of color, we don’t talk often, or openly, about our mothers, let alone the wounds caused by our relationships with them.
Out of gratitude, loyalty, and protection, we simply don’t go there, not to mention that the pervasive rhetoric is harmful and unwelcoming, centered on punishing, bashing, and villainize mothers.
Without soft spaces to land around this topic, you might think that this is just how it is or worse, that you’re the problem, keeping you hostage, suffering in silence, and perpetuating the very generational patterns you’ve vowed to break.
My perspective is that healing maternal injuries in communities of color require a more nuanced approach beyond simply analyzing, diagnosing or labeling the complex dynamics of complicated mother-daughter relationships.
It requires a spiritual and somatic approach because these recycled injuries are ancestral, and live in our bodies.
It also requires a socio-political approach because of the ways that womxn of color exist in this world, which directly impacts their capacity for and the quality of their mothering.
If you feel conflicted, simultaneously knowing that you have to go towards this work but feeling guilty, protective, or perhaps afraid, I see you.
There’s a lot at play here but I promise you this work can be done with intentionality, integrity, and deep respect for the things that matter to you.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Ancestral guidance and connection are at the center of who I am and my medicine. Integrity is one of my top personal and professional values and as such, I only work with womxn who are excited about and eager to deepen their healing through their spirituality. In fact, my best clients already have a spiritual practice of some sort.
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Absolutely. I work with folx who identify and live in the world as a womxn of color or otherwise racialized individual.
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Healing maternal injuries is 100% about mending the injuries within you caused by the mothering you received. We may speak about your experiences with your mother, but she will not be the focus. Should there be an opportunity to bring her into your healing process, my background in family therapy means that we can do so safely and effectively, but it’s not required nor expected for your transformation.
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Absolutely! Wounds remain until we heal them, whether or not the person who contributed to them is alive. That said, your mother’s physical body may not be in this realm, but her soul and spirit are still alive. Should you be interested in connecting with it during your healing process, I can help facilitate that for you.
Your healing is in service of your lineage.
I partnered with HBO to lend my expertise on generational healing in the Latinx community. Listen in as I share how my healing has facilitated my mother’s own healing.