Spiritual insights for the end of the year 2025

Before you can understand why friendship breakups hit different, you need to understand the dynamics of how and why you attract certain people as friends because let’s be honest, not all friendship breakups hurt the same. This piece maps the mothering you received to the friendship dynamics you attract, and why you can't heal one without addressing the other.

I wasn't prepared for my reaction when Mamdani won. I got on my knees and sobbed. Gutturally. Loudly. It wasn't about the outcome. It was about the grief I didn't know I was holding. His win offered hope that felt like a salve to a wound I couldn't name. Countless people felt personally impacted by a NYC election despite living thousands of miles away. The memes were hilarious, but they revealed something deeper: we're all connected through collective grief that demands to be witnessed and moved.

Everywhere you turn, people are clamoring for community, wanting connection in an increasingly disconnected world. But what's emerged are pay-to-play spaces where you pay for access to networks and people. That's not community, that's a transaction. Today's longing for community is real, but we're missing the relational skills to build it. The new paradigm requires both the warmth of traditional togetherness and the emotional awareness many of us are just learning. We need the tools to actually build what we're dreaming of.